ELEMENTS OF A HUSBAND LOBE FOR HIS WIFE-KINDNESS

AN ELEMENT OF A HUSBAND LOVE FOR HIS WIFE-KINDNESS

Kindness is a love language; it has a voice that can be heard in the saddest heart and the most chaotic mind. A man must learn to use it for his wife and children.

 Women  have  huge capacity to care for others- God configured the female specie in such a way that a emotion encircles her heart and decision.

While a male is calculating on what benefits he will get from a particular relationship, a woman is moved by how the relationship makes her feel. 

High feelings is an indicator of rightness for her while low feelings is a red light that signifies ' Don't come any further'

Genuine Kindness void of manipulative tendencies will unlock this depth of rich feelings within the woman.

Christ though God demonstrated kindness to the people around Him especially his disciples in various instances.

1. He prepared a meal for the disciples when he appeared to them after his resurrection. 

Surely, at this point, they deserved a rebuke from Him  and not love expressed through the tentacles of kindness.

They had left their first love to go back to their vocation of fishing. Thus Jesus had to asked  Pater' Do you love me more than this?

We appreciate men who buy beautiful gifts for their spouse during wedding anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving etc.

But a kind heart will always show its true contents at moments when no one is searching for its fruit.

No Christian relationship especially marriage can survive and flourish without the help of the Holy Spirit. You need His counsel while marrying marital choice and need it in the Home.

The Holy Spirit knows the best moments and the best gestures that can please and help your wife.

Jesus Christ our LORD cooked a meal for his disciples, when it was the best gesture that will show that He will be faithful in taking care of their needs.

Christ left his busy ministerial schedule to the world to visit Peter' s mother-in-law when she was sick.and healed her. ( He did not say, I will do my Father's while God takes care of your mother-in-law)

Life is tough on its own and the Christian home is one of the major succour put in place by God to comfort the weary soul.

We can put on make-up in the public and talk confidently with a bold stance but before your husband, you should be able to let go and let the tears flow when you are a bit down.

You should feel free to say ' darling, l don't understand, l need help' and you will not feel ashamed that your husband would say

 " You should have grown  past this and be strong because you have Jesus in your heart.'

 The best of us need a cuddle now and then when the wind.of trials blow across our shore.

This was the case of Hannah and her husband Elkannah. Hannah' s heart was filled with tears, a smile hidden behind the clouds of doubt and scorn from the second wife with children

Her husband could not understand her grief and sadness yet he was kind enough to give her double portion ojust to show his love for her.. He said to her " am not worth more than seven sons'

I am sure Hannah was saying ' Oga, you will not understand! sebi you have children, it is me that has none! You are supposed to be my protector and you are doing that we'll but your ministry as my intercessor and mentor is try but l will access God by myself since you as my husband is satisfied as my priest and intercessor at my present state.

I am not satisfied, so Hannah took the reins of her destiny in her hands for nature does not allowed a vacuum 

She became her own intercessor while Isaac was the one who entered God in behalf of his wife for the seed of the womb, it was Hannah who entreated the Lord and determined the direction the life of her son would take, this was the responsibility of her husband but her husband was satisfied with what he had.

The strongest woman is a baby in the heart who needs the regular hugand encouragement from her husband who wants to get the World.and its glory for her -

Unsolicited kindness is one sure way to go the extra mile for your lover.

Have you ever meditate on the depth of Christ's kindnesses to His Church (His bride)

He is God alone from the first to the last and He needed no validation from any human, yet he sacrificially lay down his life for you.

He was insulted, abused, mocked, ridiculed for your sake

He released all his angels for your sake.

He fashioned His Word to accommodate your flaws and mistakes though He is.sinless and perfect.

He overlooks our short-comings and ensures his strength is made perfect in our weakness.

Then He commands the man ' Love your wife in this same way'

But remember that Christ could not love the Church without the grace and power of the Holy Spirit and this grace, power and wisdom to love your wife is available to you too if you seek it.

The whole essence of Christian marriage is to demonstrate the love of God and to raise godly seed within this same love.

May God help is.

Please.Join me tomorrow as we examine another element.of a Husband love for his wife.

A.L. Hephzibah