SCENARIO ONE

THEY WERE CREATED IN 'TWOs'

The Book of Song of Solomon contains the most explicit emotional outpour of the love between a man and a woman.

The Book of Proverbs 30:18-19 says 

" There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a young woman.

King Solomon was the king of Israel with many wives and concubines yet he still felt this way about a damsel.

The relationship with a man and woman has the capacity to stir up the deepest feelings within and close the vault of rational reasoning so that the most sensitive of men do the unexpectable.

A sample of the love exchange between King Solomon and his dark and beautiful African damsel 

A SONG BY TWO LOVERS.

Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.

​ I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys.

 He Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women. 

She Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men.

 I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.

 Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love. 

Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. 

His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. Daughters of Jerusalem,

Song of Solomon 2

Every man and woman is configured for relationships. You intend to act like animal after a long period of isolation from positive human relationship. King Solomon advocated in the Book of Ecclesiastes:

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

Eccl. 4:9-12

NO MAN/WOMAN IS AN ISLAND

Human is created for mutualism, no man is formed to become an Island. You are part of a System in which you enjoy what others contribute  into the system and others also benefits from your creation.

The Bible says we know in parts, it means no man is the custodian of the entirety of God' s knowledge and wisdom, God gave each man a part of His resources so that we can depend on others just as others depend on you.

The man who is rich in human relationship is the richest of them all. But if you are rich in silver and gold but poor in good relationship, the poor relationships that surrounds you will surely deplete your treasure of silver and gold.

A rich man who raise a fool  as a son and his heir, has only worked for nothing because his son will surely waste his inheritance in days after the rich man death.

A GOOD MARRIAGE IS A SAFE HARBOR!

Marriage relationship is ordained to be the strongest and safest of all human relationship. It is an abode of comfort and trust, a shore of vulnerability, a union where you can afford to bare your innermost thoughts and fear to another without any fear of betrayal.

It is made for.permanency, for all seasons: " Till death do apart, in sickness and in health, for in richness and in wealth'.

Walking hand in hand as you attend Church services together, go shopping in the mall and within the confines of your home is some of the pikes of a loving relationship.

The accidental and Intentional touch of the Chin, a pat at the back, a romantic rub is all signs that though married for a number of years, the fire of feelings is still burning and the sex life not dry.

God purposed marriage and relationships for companionship, bliss and fruitfulness; it was never intended to cause sadness, grief  and pain. 

Proverbs 5:;18 summaries it thus:

"Bless your fresh flowing fountain

Enjoy the wife (husband- my addition) you married as a young man (woman)

Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose

Don't ever quit  taking delight in her body

Never take her love for granted!

Why would you trade enduring intimacies for cheap thrills with a whore?" THE MESSAGE

No matter what you see in the world presently:  News of  newly married couples breaking up after one year of their wedding ceremony; domestic abuse and violence; some Christian couples filling the client forms of  Divorce Lawyers;  you must understand that the marriage relationship is originally intended for pleasure and satisfaction. 

You are ordained for happiness with your respective spouse and the Enemy cannot stop this original.purpose of God for your home if you do not permit me.

When a lady/ guy fails in the choosing the right marriage partner, no matter how anointed such is, it will take a lot of grace and mercy to fulfill God’s calling joyfully.

 

We have good examples of believers with blissful and happy marriages but the sad story is that we also have believers who are going through tough times in their marriages. But we are certain by the grace of God, they will surely over come for the Bible says " In all these things, we are more than conqueror through Christ who strengthens us.

IF GOD IS THE CENTER OF YOUR MARRIAGE

I have discovered in life that you reign and attain lofty heights  by divine knowledge. You can be successful in your chosen endeavour as long as you acquired the necessary expertise needed. 

 I have an electric pressing iron that I have been using for over ten years and have not repaired once. 

Although, I pray over every appliance bought  but I also ensure that I follow the instructions of the manual as much as possible. 

While I rely on God's power to keep my appliance safe, I ensure that I don’t deliberately go against given instructions for its safety.

This applies in your marriage relationship; to have a successful marriage and happiness in your home; you must rely on the knowledge and wisdom provided in the Bible. 

Your faith in Christ Jesus secured the blessings but you must apply divine principles to sustain the continuous flow of the blessing.

The divorce rate in the World is alarming, some countries has as much as 65% divorce rate. 

 Ed Stetzer assessed that couples who are active in their faith are less likely to divorce and the same article published in Christianity today magazine states that 53% of very happy couples agree with the statement “God is at the center of our marriage.” 

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”

Matthew 7::24-27

Divorce rate will always be on the increase as long as the World  refuses to accept the Divine order of Agape love as being the necessary foundation, crux of a blissful home and insist on ‘ Eros love’ and ‘philoes love’ as the most important elements needed for a happy marriage.

You don’t necessarily need to be physically attracted to a man to fall in love with him: Put a guy and lady  in a close environment either in the  office, house or even the Church environment (especially if the guy/lady is one who truly fears God, whose lifestyle is enamored by kindness, grace and the fruits of the spirit,) genuine  love for such will swell like a gushing river, feelings of being in love will radiant on a daily basis. 

Such guy becomes the most handsome man on the planet for the lady because good feelings are usually encouraged by lovely actions.

When actions and expressions of love die in a relationship, its only a matter of time, before happiness in such relationship dwindles. 

It takes deliberate and conscious actions to keep the needed glow in a marriage relationship in the short and long run. 

Many couples are cohabitant in their marriages instead of being intimate friends and lovers.

Joyce Meyer said if Christian wives serve and respect their husbands the way they respect and serve their pastors, Christian men will feel as kings in their homes and truly find it easy to love their women as Christ love the Church.